Epiphany #3

So this is it. The long awaited third epiphany. Don’t want to build it up too much, but this is the one that ties the first two together.

The first two, I had in Singapore and they were written about in Season 1. The first was described in Killdeer vs. the Crab, where I recognized I needed someone.

The second happened two days later. I talked about it in The JET Afterlife. That’s a long entry so I’ll summarize. It was concerning time. It bothered me that people would be passive and let time and distance separate them and lose contact. I decided to try and overcome this by keeping myself in a position where I could travel anywhere to see the people that mean the most to me.

While I was able to overcome the distance, I couldn’t fight the effects of time. It wasn’t enough to cover the distance. The separation could still occur.

Putting the two together.

In my recent posts I described a rock I couldn’t move and the life-changing event. Those two things happened at the same time, as a result of one person. A loss that I couldn’t cope with for a long time. It knocked me to the ground and took the wind out of me…or I guess I described it as being submerged.

I used to be cynical in order to cope with these matters. Who cares? There will always be someone else. Nothing lasts forever, so why bother? And that would be a reason never to get attached to one person. And I was never after any short-term gain, so I couldn’t do anything frivolous or meaningless.

So how do I cope in a more positive way?

It just hit me today. And it may not be profound to some of you. And, really, I’ve heard it before, but sometimes something that is said can have a very different meaning depending on the attitude you have when you hear (or read) it. Here it is.

There’s going to be more than one right person for you in your life. So it’s not enough to simply find the right person. It has to also be the right time.

The best another right person you meet at the wrong time can be is a friend. Unless there’s value in something short-term. (I guess it depends on how you see things. I’m trying to see value in short-term things, mainly the present, as the past and the future are quite long, but I’m more interested in long-term gain.) Or unless you’re going to make a change in your life and go in a new direction.

The rest of your life is a long road. Best to pull over from time to time to make sure you’re still headed in the direction you want (or wanted) to go. I still reject the idea floating down a river, going with the flow. But I can see (better now) that there are things I can’t control.